I Chose Freedom

What is a Soul Tie?


The Bible  speaks of what is known today as soul ties. In the Bible, it doesn't use the words, “soul tie”, but it speaks of them when it talks about souls being knit together, becoming one flesh, etc. A soul tie can serve many functions, but in its simplest form, it ties two souls together in the spiritual realm.

Soul ties are formed through close friendships, through vows, commitments, promises, and through physical intimacy. Not all soul ties are bad. God wants us to have healthy relationships that build us up, provide wisdom, and give godly counsel.

With that being said, any relationship that is tearing you down, has you questioning your self-worth, provides zero positivity and has a stronghold on your mind,is a soul tie.


I’ve been there…

I remember it like it was yesterday.  I was seventeen years old and my parents had just begun to allow me to date. I heard a guy saw me in the mall and wanted to meet. I was a little apprehensive but agreed to meet him. He was charming, good looking, mannerable and he invited me to church for our first date! I told myself, “we can be friends and see what happens”.  After only three dates, I just knew he was the one! Silly right? But somehow, I know I’m not alone.  I took pride in being a lady with high morals and values. I knew what I was and was not going to do in my relationship.  I quickly learned until you are put in certain situations, often times you really don’t know what you would do.


So fast forward 7 years later we were still together. Now, in my mind, “I found my husband!” That justified any of my actions in this relationship we had created. It never crossed my mind that he and I wouldn’t be married. When that day finally came and I was forced to see this wasn’t my husband, not only did I not want to accept it, I chose not to. I chose to ignore every yellow, orange and red flag that was literally flying at my head, as the years quickly rolled by. I loved him and I was going to fight for my marriage….oh wait, I have no ring, nor marriage, just a fifteen year- old ungodly relationship that I refused to let go of.

I chose to ignore the signs, because In my mind, I had invested too much time into this relationship. I was not going to start over! Though I didn’t want to accept it, my self-esteem was low, my self-worth was in question and I did not value myself enough to see that God wanted His best for me. Not to say my ex was this horrible person, he was just not God’s best for me. I, like many of us, began to think of what I had done and what I could do to make it right.

Once God has revealed this person is not for you, it will never be right. When I was able to receive that word, I was able to let go and begin to heal.

Power of Soul Ties

What happens next is where we truly begin to see a soul tie has been formed. You have left the relationship, but you think about the other person constantly. You know you were in this unhealthy and ungodly relationship, in which you could have been emotionally, physically, or spiritually abused but you feel so attached to them that you refuse to cut off all communication and connection to them. You may even decide to go back to this person, time after time, regardless of his or her negative effects on you, your children or the people you love most. You defend your right to stay in a relationship with the person that your soul is tied to. This is due to your comfortability; comfortability with the disfunction.

How to heal from Soul Ties.


Make the choice today to trust God’s word. You are free from this bondage we call soul ties. Psalm 118:5 “Out of my distress I called on the Lord; the Lord answered me and set me free.” Choose to take the steps to begin to truly heal. Cut off all communication with this person who you have been feeling bound to, so that you are not drawn back in by their promises or threats. Connect yourself with people who uplift, respect and love you for the fabulous person you are. I am not saying you will instantly be healed, nor that it will be easy but I promise you the more you are in the word, consistently praying over your situation and building healthy friendships with positive people to confide in, this soul tie will be broken  in Jesus name! You will be set free from this bondage and you will be healed.

Galatians 5:1

Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.

Lucy Howard